The Washington Monument from the Lincoln Memorial
We all do it – we lie.
We tell little white lies. We avoid telling the “whole truth”. We deflect and don’t answer. We create a “better version” of what’s really happening.
Then we justify it.
A study in 2002 by Robert Feldman found that, on average, people lies 2-3 times in a 10 minute conversation. Yikes!
We just want everyone to think the best of us. We don’t want to reveal our failures or the mess in our lives.
I’m not here to call you out on the lies. I can’t tell you if it’s good or bad or kind or rotten. It’s not my job; that’s between you and your conscience, or your God, or your minister, or your therapist, or even you and your dog….
What I am going to point out is that the places WHERE we lie can point to something important.
What you don’t want others to see or know about you is a place where, if dealt with, you could have huge freedom in your life.
How do you have a breakthrough to the truth? Even if you do tell the truth in the situation, the urge to lie is the indicator you are looking for.
A. You identify it.You notice where you are inclined to share something outside of the unaltered facts.
B. Determine what exactly the lie is about:are you wanting to look better to the other person? Do you not want to deal with consequences? Is the truth going to cause pain or distress? Of what are you trying to convince someone else?
C. Choose what action you can take to change your future so that you aren’t faced with this situation later.
If the actions you are taking are the right ones, then your future is full of honesty because who doesn’t want to share a success story?!
My friend, it’s all in the choice.
If you aren’t excited to share the results of your business with others (because money is the source of a whole lotta lying!) I’d be happy to help you identify what actions you can take to move you away from money shame to celebration.
CLICK HERE to schedule a short (no cost) chat and I’ll help you find future freedom in your biggest lie!
Be Great,
Jenell